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Confessions of an Average Youth Minister



Random Thoughts

October 4, 2007

Conversation starters to ask a student you just met

Tim Schmoyer at Life in Student Ministry wrote a blog entry called 100 blog topics I hope YOU write. It is an interesting list and several people have started taking him up on it. I am procrastinating right now so I thought I would give my take on this one.

The question I always like to ask is "What is your art?"

Yes, I get the same blank stares that you are giving me right now, so I quickly follow it up with "what do you like to do to be creative, do you paint, draw, dance, fix cars, build web sites, scrapbook?" I have never met a student yet who didn’t give me an answer after a little prodding. I think this is because we are all made in the image of a creative God and part of being made in his image is this need to create.

The reason I like this question is threefold. 1) It gives me a deeper insight into the student and lets me see something in them I may not have imagined. 2) Normally it gives me a subject that I can pursue in conversation with them. It gives me a chance to ask follow up questions about something that the student actually enjoys. and 3) It gives me an idea of where this student is talented so I can know how to get them involved in ministry.

"What is your art" is a question that you don’t hear everyday, but it is a question that has opened the door for me with students more than once.



About the Author

nailscars
nailscars
I don't have all of the answers and some weeks it feels like I don't have any of the answers. I often find a good word picture or object lesson and build the lesson off of that instead of the other way around. I don't always pray as much as I should and I never study as much as I should. But I love students ministry. I love watching teenagers as they serve God. I love to see them worship and forget about themselves for a while. I love seeing someone wake up to the love of God if only for a little while. I love to see them out serving their community and sharing the love of Christ with others. I love to be a part of their lives and I love seeing the world through their eyes. I am an average youth minister.




4 Comments


  1. =) i didn’t give you a blank stare.

    hihi
    i understood the question.

    my art is writing. There is just something enticing about words
    that follow in tandem with me.

    Regards,
    Jeoffry =D


  2. JC Teen Church

    I like to ask what school they go to? How old are you? so you believe in Jesus? what did you think about the lesson?


  3. On a scale of one to ten, one being terrible ten being great
    How’s school? relationship with_____? How was your last vacation? …how would you rate the football game?

    Follow up to these: Tell me about it being a 2…4…7. What would it have taken to make it a ten? These types of questions give the youth and us a way to scale without having to access complex and obfuscating (the word itself is obfuscating) emotional language. A number is not nearly as risky as sharing my "feelings".


  4. Amit

    Excellent post.I want to thank you for this informative read, I really appreciate sharing this great post. Keep up your work..



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